If you ever asked some of your friend I think you must found this problem with them.
Let’s check it out my friend story !
Problem :
My friend (she) at First Senior High School has been going out for two months with a boy that she had a crush on for a long time. But after only a week, her boyfriend started telling her what should and shouldn’t do, from what clothes and accessories to wear to the friends she can hang out with. Her boyfriend forbids her to talk with her male friends and even decides which of my friend she can keep. She used to have lots of friends, but now her friends drooping off one by one. What’s even more upsetting is that her friends are beginning to say that she has been aloof and cold since she has been seeing this guy.
She don’t want to keep losing friends, but on the other hand she don’t want to break up with her boyfriend.
Comments & Solutions :
What a dilemma ! Two months is not long time for a relationship, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t evaluate what has been going on so far. Maybe it’s about time you asked yourself whetever you feel comfortable with all these restrictions. If not, you’d better talk about them with your boyfriend.
Seeing someone is the first step toward a bigger goal, which is marriage. Going out with someone gives you the opportunity to know each other better, to find out what you have in common and what your differences are. It’s also the time to learn to make compromise and find solutions which make both of you happy. There are two people in a relationship, so you and your boyfriend need to respect ansd accept each other. From what you told us, you only seem to have a one-way relationship with your boyfriend. It will be more fun if the two of you can give each other a measure of freedom based on mutual trust.
With your boyfriend, discuss how you feel about the restrictions he imposed on you and their impact on your social life, like losing some of your friends. Maybe your borfriend has had an unpleasant experience which makes him behave like that. Maybe he used to go out with a a girl who betrayed his trust. This can help you understand his point of view and give you a plan of actions, for instance, trying to make him see that you are not that kind of girl.
As to friends, you can explain to him how important friends are for you and ask him to understand and respect your feelings. Afterward you can introduce him to your friends and ask him to join you when you’re hanging out with them. That way he can learn to develop trust in you and your friends.
One more thing, it’s a good idea to do some introspection. Do you think you’ve been keeping him on a short leash too? To get the kind of relationship that works, you need to set him an example and behave the way you want him to behave.
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7 years ago
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